As always, make sure bdsm/kink play is safe, sane, and consensual. Never leave your sub alone during bdsm play. Prepare everything needed before restraining your sub so there’s no need to step away until after you’ve released him. When using rope or any tightly fitting cuffs, always periodically feel your sub’s hands/feet/balls (whatever is tied) to ensure they aren’t cold. Cold is a sign of circulation loss which needs to be addressed immediately by removing the restraints in that area before your sub gets hurt.

Specific to this week’s tutorial, it’s important to know your sub and what he can handle BEFORE engaging in this type of play with a sub, especially if he’s restrained, and even moreso if he’s gagged. Make sure he has a safe word, and a safe sound/hand signal equivalent if he’s gagged. If you or your sub aren’t at a point where you trust each other 150%, don’t engage in this type of play until you reach that point. Obviously your sub needs to trust you first, but also, you need to know that you can trust your sub as well. If your sub feels something is too much and you don’t have that level of trust both ways, he may be afraid to tell you, then things can get out of hand.

(As a rule of my own, I won’t even do e-stim play with a sub unless I’ve known him for quite a while and played with him many times before. It’s just better all around, having a better idea of what the sub can handle, as well as building trust first. So Gboy has waited quite a while for this opportunity.) ;)

If your sub has anxiety issues and has never tried e-stim before, be extra cautious and don’t restrain him for his first e-stim session. You don’t want to completely ruin the experience for him and have him never wanting to try it again.

Also, always start on a low e-stim setting when you turn the power box on, then slowly ramp up if/when your sub is ok with it. Once you know your sub’s tolerance level after playing with e-stim with him a few times, you could start slightly higher.

You may choose to restrain your e-stim experienced sub using rope, locking leather cuffs, or whatever you choose. Just be careful using additional toys/gear that may be wet (lube, etc.), as this can create hotspots when using e-stim and might end up being a complete turn-off for your sub.

Put the required batteries into your e-stim power box. Be sure to remove them when done, as you don’t want batteries corroding in your power box which you spent good money on!

Place your choice of e-stim accessories on your sub. Be sure to use the proper gel as this tends to distribute the sensation more evenly and avoids hotspots in undesired areas. See below for recommended gel, which can vary with some accessories.

Turn on the power box at its lowest level. Sometimes the lowest level or two can either not be felt at all by a sub, or it can be a more annoying/prickly feeling than anything. It’s still important to start at the lowest level as every sub has different tolerances to e-stim. If it’s kind of annoying and/or barely felt, you can go up to the next level a few seconds later and see how that level feels.

A detailed list of several e-stim accessories, complete with reviews and feedback from my sub (Gboy), is below. If you don’t like the feeling you get from e-stim when using double accessories (such as two loops, two bands, etc.), you may want to try reversing the black and red electrodes. Different subs feel this in different ways, but it may be as easy as reversing these to make things feel better.

Conductive Rubber Cock Loops:

These are actually electrified rubber loops. An electrode goes in either end of the thin rubber tube (there’s a hole at each end to insert the electrode into), then you simple slip the loop over your sub’s cock, balls, or cock/balls together, and slide it into position. Do the same with the other rubber loop, then tighten the loop with the included piece designed to do so (see close-up photo below).

Recommended gel:

For this e-stim accessory, I recommend using Tac gel (scroll down on this page and click on TacGel). Most e-stim gel is too slippery and will cause the conductive rubber cock loops to slip and roll out of place from where you want them. Tac gel is stickier, and thus helps to keep the rubber loops in place. Just be careful when removing the rubber loops as your sub’s skin may stick to them, but typically rolls off of them pretty easily.

Gboy’s opinion of the conductive rubber cock loops:

“These felt the most pleasurable out of the e-stim accessories that I experienced. It was a more massaging and pulsing feeling as it was turned up. Definitely think this would be the one that would potentially get me to cum.”

Zeus Electrosex Penis Bands:

The penis bands are what many tend to start off with in their e-stim experience. However, These are not my e-stim go-to. Although the bands go around the sub’s dick, there’s only one point on each band where the electro current is coming out of. This tends to create almost a hot spot feeling. While the electro sensation can still travel through the sub’s dick based on where you place the bands, I don’t think they make for as good of an experience as some other e-stim accessories.

Recommended gel:

For this one, I recommend using standard electro gel such as Zeus Incite Electrosex Gel, not Tac gel. Gel definitely helps make for a better e-stim experience for most subs as it smooths out the would-be “zaps” and “pinching” feelings.

Gboy’s opinion of the Zeus Electrosex Penis Bands:

“This one was more of an uncomfortable feeling as it was more like pins being felt, with what started in the balls, and I could feel it to the head of my dick. Wasn’t a bad unbearable feeling but definitely not as pleasurable as the conductive rubber loops, especially the more we turned it up.”

Silicone Bi-Polar Cock RingSet:

The bi-polar cock ring set looked like a really hot concept in my opinion, to begin with. I liked the way the electro didn’t come from a single spot (like the Zeus penis bands, above), which should help distribute the electro feeling a bit even without gel. This may have been the case if they worked well. However, it was a real bitch to get these things to hold in place. The set comes with a smaller ring and a larger ring. The basic idea here is to use the larger ring about the sub’s cock/balls both, and the small ring around the sub’s dick (just under the head, or on any part of the shaft). The ring around the cock/balls both wasn’t so bad and it fit fairly well. The one around the shaft, not so much. I could see this being an issue on a small cock that isn’t very thick, but Gboy’s cock is pretty thick, I’d say average to above average when hard. I’ve seen thicker, but not by much.

Recommended gel:

For this one, I recommend using standard electro gel such as Zeus Incite Electrosex Gel, not Tac gel. Gel definitely helps make for a better e-stim experience for most subs as it smooths out the would-be “zaps” and “pinching” feelings. If you find that the rings are a pretty good fit, but slipping a bit, you can also try using Tac gel (scroll down on this page and click on TacGel). The Tac gel should help keep the rings from sliding out of position, as long as they’re fairly snug to begin with.

You can use just one of the rings in this set by plugging both electrodes into the smaller ring, or into the larger ring.

Gboy’s opinion of the Bi-Polar Cock Ring Set when using only the smaller ring under cock head:

“This one was definitely the most uncomfortable, that or I was just getting uncomfortable from the feeling. Felt like more intense pins and needles. Should be used more as a punishment. I don’t think I could get off from this one.”

Gboy’s opinion of the Bi-Polar Cock Ring Set when using only the larger ring around both cock/balls:

“This basically took the feeling of the small ring, but moved it to the balls more.”

You can see in this close-up photo how even the smaller ring is too large and barely holding on, even though Gboy’s dick isn’t soft.

Or, you can use both rings at the same time to make the electro sensation travel between the two rings. Just plug one electrode into each ring.

Gboy’s opinion of the Bi-Polar Cock Ring Set when using both rings at the same time:

“This made the feeling of the two previous ones more spread out throughout my whole cock and balls.”